If your friend is dealing with the loss of a child, he needs a lot of support.
You may not know exactly how to help, but it’s crucial that your
friend know you’re there for him. Seeking
grief counseling services at a funeral home in your area may help your friend take the first steps
Be Patient and Take Cues From Your Friend
Everyone grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
There is also no set timetable for how long your friend will be grieving.
Familiarize yourself with the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining,
depression, and acceptance. Try to recognize these stages in your friend’s
words and behavior to help you better understand what he needs from you.
Take your cues from him, and offer kind words, physical comfort, and attention
when needed. Give your friend consistent support throughout the funeral
planning, cremation or burial service, and beyond.
Relieve Your Friend of Some Daily Burdens
Your friend may not be able to handle simple daily tasks, like making
meals, cleaning, running errands, or taking care of other family members.
Be there for your friend by taking over some or all of these tasks. Bring
groceries and cooked meals to your friend’s house, babysit children
in the family, clean the home, and do laundry. While your friend may not
immediately notice or acknowledge this support during his grief, it will
be appreciated and will make a difference.
Encourage Your Friend to Seek Grief Counseling
Your friend should seek
grief support services such as grief counseling as soon as possible. These services
are offered through funeral homes, churches, community centers, doctor’s
offices, and therapists. Help your friend find a compassionate grief counselor,
and drive him to the appointments.
At Chapel of the Chimes, we have been providing cremation services and
funeral services in Hayward for 140 years. Our compassionate grief counselors offer grief support
services that are sensitive to the diverse needs of our multicultural
community. For more information, call us today at (510) 398-6922.