Before you attend funeral services, you may want to talk with your children
about death. This will help them to better
understand the natural course of life and cope with the loss of a loved one.
When talking to your children about death, be ready for some intense questions
that may be hard to answer. Some children might start to question what
will happen to them when you pass away. They may even become frightened
and worry that they will be left alone. Take this time to reassure them
that they will always be loved and cared for. Reassure your children that
you plan to be around to care for them.
Use Appropriate Words
People often refer to death as someone “sleeping eternally,”
or they may tell a child a pet was “put to sleep.” Parents
may also prefer to say that a loved one or pet “went away.”
These phrases may confuse and upset your children, especially when attending
funeral services. They may fear going to sleep or be worried whenever
someone is “going away” on vacation. Be frank with your children.
Say words like “death” and “died.” They may not
fully understand until they are older, but they will be less fearful and
more capable of grasping what has happened to a deceased friend or relative.
Take Advantage of Teaching Moments
Whether you are attending a funeral service or see a dead bird on the sidewalk,
you should take advantage of the moment to talk about death with your
children. Kids are naturally curious about the world, living and dead,
so it never hurts to explain that an animal or a flower has died. This
will only further their understanding of death and life.
Chapel of the Chimes Hayward has many grief counselors in Hayward to help you and your family through
this time. Our cemeteries are open for visitation Monday through Sunday
from dawn until dusk. Please call us at (510) 398-6922 for further information.