Our recent blog articles focused on topics relating to grief and different ways of paying tribute to loved ones who have passed on. You may also find these resources helpful or interesting.
- Learn more about the “5 Stages of Grief,” a model was developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross .
- If you or someone close to you is coping with grief and bereavement , then you may find this article helpful.
- Are you in the process of planning a funeral or memorial service? The Funeral Consumers Alliance offers some useful suggestions.
- Interested in more information about the Mexican tradition of Día de los Muertos? Take a look at this Palomar College site .
- Find more information about the Ching Ming Festival .
At Chapel of the Chimes Hayward , we understand that not all cultures respond to death in the same manner, and that grief can affect each person differently. Contact us online or call (510) 471-3363 to learn more about our services, including estate planning and cemetery lot purchases, or for information about recommended support groups.
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Have you made arrangements for your will? Did you ensure your loved ones have the necessary medical documents and power of attorney in case you cannot make decisions for yourself? Learn more about making these important preparations.
This video describes some of the documents you need when planning the future of your estate after you pass away. A trust may be better than a will for managing assets if you cannot manage them yourself. Wills also offer many benefits, including simplicity and delegation of power of attorney.
For answers to your questions or for more information, contact us at Chapel of the Chimes in Hayward, California . Lifemark Group’s Chapel of the Chimes offers estate planning and funeral services to ease the passing of a loved one. Contact us online or call (510) 471-3363 to speak with a member of our friendly, compassionate staff.
Grief over the loss of a loved one can take many different forms. Individuals and cultures across the world express grief in different, equally natural ways. Almost universally, families hold meaningful funeral services to honor their loved ones and confront their own grief.
The loss of a loved one can evoke many different emotions beyond sadness and sorrow. Someone who is grieving may feel anxiety, fear, anger, or confusion. They may find it difficult to concentrate, sleep, or eat, while others may simply feel numb.
Grief is often thought of as a process that happens in stages:
- Shock, Denial, and Disbelief
A powerful loss comes as such a shock that it can impossible to understand or accept.
As a symptom of pain, anger is a natural part of the healing process.
In a desperate attempt to regain a lost life, some may make deals with oneself, possibly in a religious setting.
- Depression or Sadness
Sorrow peaks when the full brunt of reality sets in. Like anger, this is a natural and normal stage, and should not be pushed away.
This stage is about finding a balance, not necessarily about regaining joy from everyday life. The pain of losing a loved one never entirely disappears, but rather, over time, settles into a permanent reality that can be understood.
These stages can be useful to understand why you or someone in mourning feels a certain way. However, some people challenge this theory of stages. The day-to-day experience of grief often feels more like emotional waves that are triggered by a memory or connection to the person who passed away. In this way, grief can suddenly and unexpectedly become more intense.
If someone close to you is grieving, there are a few ways you can help. First and foremost, let them know you are there for them. Offer to help with chores, grocery shopping, or other errands. It may also be helpful to suggest resources for grief support.
At Chapel of the Chimes Hayward , we understand that grief can take many different forms, and we can recommend beneficial support groups. If you have questions about our funeral services, estate planning, or recommended support groups, then please contact us by calling (510) 471-3363.
- Shock, Denial, and Disbelief
When a loved one passes away, you want to honor their memory. In addition to religious traditions, the ritual observation of death is a powerful part of the healing process. Cultures around the world observe death and mourning in different ways.
- Ching Ming
The Ching Ming Festival is a Chinese tradition, observed in early April. Families visit the graves of their ancestors to celebrate and honor their passed lives. Graves are swept and food, tea, and other offerings are made.
- Día de los Muertos
Día de los Muertos (or the Day of the Dead), is a Mexican holiday on the first and second day of November. Sugar skulls and marigolds are used to honor the dead and offerings are made at gravesites.
- Jewish Traditions
Following a death, someone in mourning goes through a process known as “sitting shivah.” This is a period of mourning and quiet contemplation. Each year, a memorial custom called Yahrzeit is observed on the day of the death, according to the Hebrew calendar.
If your loved one has passed away, then you may wish to honor their life with a ritual tribute. A memorial service is one way to honor your loved one. Planning a memorial service involves a few key considerations.
An obituary is not simply a notification of death, but is a way for people to reflect and celebrate their loved one’s life. Writing an obituary can be a challenging task, but also an opportunity to reflect on the life of a loved one.
- Music, Readings, and Reception
The content of a memorial service provides an opportunity for those who knew the deceased to remember them through their favorite music, poetry, or religious beliefs. Care should be taken not only to select items the deceased enjoyed, but also consider how friends and family will respond.
- After the Service
Special care must be taken before the deceased is cremated. There are specific laws in California that govern where ashes can and cannot be scattered. Regardless of location, you must receive a permit from the local California Department of Health. The only people who may scatter ashes are family members or licensed representatives of a funeral home or crematorium.
Hayward’s Chapel of the Chimes can help you plan your memorial or funeral service. Contact us online or call (510) 471-3363 to learn more about the services we offer, including estate planning and cemetery lot purchases.
- Ching Ming
While all people cope with grief, men face specific challenges when dealing with the loss of a loved one. Men and Grief by Carol Staudacher brings to light the hurdles of mourning which hinder the healing process for many men.
Grief expert Carol Staudacher says men have five coping styles:
- Secret or solitary grief
- Taking action, such as physical and legal repercussions
- Immersion into another activity, such as work
- Falling into addictive behavior
Find out more about men, grieving, and sorrow .
At Chapel of the Chimes, we understand how difficult the loss of a loved one can be. Distinguished by its Circle of Peace Mausoleum and bay views, our Hayward location offers in-ground and above-ground burial, cremation, and funeral and memorial services.
Contact us to tour our site in person, and discuss how we can be of help.