Grief is never easy, but when a death occurs suddenly, it can be mixed with a range of other emotions that are not typical after a death that was anticipated. Being thrown into funeral planning and making decisions about things like burial and cremation in an instant can be extremely overwhelming. If you are struggling with your feelings, your funeral home can offer grief support services to help. Read on to take a closer look at the way that grieving is impacted when death is sudden.
The first stage of grief may be shock.
When a death is anticipated, family and friends get an opportunity to say goodbye to their loved one. They may even begin the grieving process before their loved one is gone as they work to determine what the world will be like without them. With a sudden death, none of this preparation is possible. Finding out that a loved one is gone can initially cause feelings of shock that can leave you feeling like the death is not actually real. While coping with this shock, you may also be dealing with funeral planning, leaving you feeling numb.
You may experience guilt.
It’s common for people to experience guilt during the grieving process, however misplaced it is. After a sudden death, people often experience more guilt while grieving, because of the things they didn’t get to say to their loved ones. Guilt can derail healthy grieving, so consider seeking grief counseling if you are struggling to get past your feelings.
You may feel angry at your loss.
Anger after losing a loved one is common, but it can be particularly overwhelming after an unexpected death. Some people get so stuck in the anger stage of grieving that finding peace can be difficult without the help of a grief counselor.
Chapel of the Chimes Hayward can help your family with everything from pre-planning a funeral to planning a funeral service that needs to happen immediately. When your family needs our services, call our funeral home at (510) 400-4442.
After someone passes away, offering condolences to the family provides them with comfort and reminds them that they are not alone. There is no single right way to express condolences. Sometimes, families specify ways they would like their loved one to be memorialized in the obituary, but the way you choose to share your condolences can depend on a number of factors, from your relationship to the family and the deceased to your budget. Here are some of the things you can do to share your condolences and offer support to a family coping with funeral planning and mourning.
Flowers are the most traditional way to offer condolences. The flowers are sometimes sent to the funeral home, in which case they may be displayed during the viewing or funeral services. In other instances, they are sent directly to the home of the family. Sending flowers to the home is more personal and is usually done only by people who are close to the family. If you are considering sending flowers, be sure to consider the religious customs of the family, as some faiths do not associate flowers with funerals. Check the obituary or call the funeral home to ensure that the family is accepting flowers.
Send a Donation
In some cases, families ask that, in lieu of flowers, people donate the money they would have spent to a particular charity. You can still make a donation as a tribute to someone even if the family hasn’t specifically requested it. Be sure to choose a group that aligns with the deceased’s persons interests and beliefs and that does not have any potential to be controversial to anyone in the family.
Send a Personal Touch
A simple card with a handwritten note can also be a meaningful gesture to families who are grieving. Share a story about the person who has passed or just focus on offering your support. A phone call can also be a welcome, personal way to share your condolences.
Chapel of the Chimes Hayward is focused on making funeral planning as smooth and easy as possible for families in their times of need. For assistance in planning a funeral at Hayward, call (510) 400-4442.