• Deciding Who Should Deliver the Eulogy

    Adult and young women with documents

    A eulogy is a beautiful way to honor a life at a funeral that gives everyone a way to remember the best parts of someone’s story. If one of your loved ones has recently passed away, use the following tips to decide who should deliver this important speech.

    Whoever you choose to give the eulogy must feel comfortable speaking in front of a group of people. It is usually preferred that this person had a close relationship with the deceased so that he or she can deliver a personalized eulogy. They should also be willing to accept suggestions from family members and other loved ones of the deceased.

    For more than 140 years, Chapel of the Chimes has provided a beautiful place to say goodbye to loved ones in Hayward. Our end-of-life services give survivors a way to honor those who have passed away. To learn more about our services , visit us on the Web or call (510) 471-3363. 

  • The 5 Stages of Grief

    Although everyone deals with grief on a personal level, there are five stages that seem to be pretty universal throughout the process. After the death of a loved one, you will most likely experience the following emotions, as explained in this video. 

    Denial is a refusal to accept certain information or facts about the situation. Anger usually follows denial and can manifest itself in a number of different ways. Many people start to bargain with their spiritual beliefs during a period of grieving. As people start to accept the death, they might struggle with depression. The final stage of grief is usually acceptance.

    Chapel of the Chimes wants to help you through your difficult time. We give you the opportunity to honor the life of a lost loved one with a beautiful funeral or memorial service. To learn more about our services, call (510) 471-3363. 

  • A Brief History of Dia de los Muertos

    Day of the dead offering altar (Dia de Muertos)

    Dia de los Muertos, otherwise known as the Day of the Dead, is a holiday celebrated throughout Latin America and most notably in Mexico. It is celebrated on the first and second of November. During the holiday, families visit cemeteries to honor their deceased loved ones.

    History of Dia de los Muertos

    The indigenous people of central Mexico have been celebrating Dia de los Muertos for at least 3,000 years. It had been celebrated throughout the month of August, which was the ninth month on the Aztec Solar Calendar. Hundreds of years ago, the Spanish conquistadors attempted to eradicate the tradition because they believed it was an abomination that dishonored the dead. Their attempts were unsuccessful, and today the holiday of Dia de los Muertos is widely celebrated in various forms throughout Latin America and parts of the U.S.

    Perceptions of Death

    Dia de los Muertos had been born of the belief that life does not end at death; instead, it is merely a transformation to be embraced. Those who celebrate Dia de los Muertos believe that the dead are still part of their cherished community, and that mourning them would be insulting. Instead, the dead are celebrated and honored on this holiday.

    Symbols of Dia de los Muertos

    While Dia de los Muertos may take on slightly different forms depending on where it is celebrated, the basic elements generally remain the same. Celebrants wear calacas, which are wooden skull masks. Other familiar symbols are calaveras, or skeletons.

    Activities to Honor the Dead

    On Dia de los Muertos, families visit cemeteries to care for the gravesites, and to decorate them with candles and marigolds. Families have picnics next to the graves, eating the favorite foods of the deceased loved one. The calacas may be placed on altars. Some families have sugar skulls engraved with the name of the deceased. These sugar skulls are then consumed by relatives and friends.

    At Chapel of the Chimes , our funeral home professionals personalize your loved one’s end-of-life services to fit his or her cultural and religious background. We encourage Hayward-area families to visit our beautiful grounds and speak with one of our caring staff members about funeral service options, cremation services, and memorialization choices. Contact us at (510) 471-3363 and let us know how we can help you honor your loved one.

  • Comforting a Friend Who Is Grieving

    It’s often difficult to know how to comfort the bereaved. Everyone experiences grief in different ways; adjust your actions and words to your friend’s needs. For example, your friend may not want to talk a great deal in the initial days after the death. However, he or she may appreciate your simple physical presence. Give your friend a shoulder to cry on. When your friend is ready to talk, try to avoid platitudes. Instead, mention how much you admired the lost loved one and express your sympathy. When you watch this video, you’ll learn about the importance of staying connected with your friend long after the funeral. 

    Remember special dates, such as birthdays and holidays, and check in on your friend during those times. This video also explains how you can help your friend in practical ways, such as by offering to do chores.

    When you choose Chapel of the Chimes for funeral planning, cremation services, and memorialization, you’re never alone in your grief. Reach out to our community and access our online counseling services 24/7. Residents of the Hayward area can learn more about our grief resources by calling (510) 471-3363.