• The Many Ways That Bereavement Can Manifest

    Losing someone you love or deeply care about can be a painful experience, the effects of which can last weeks, months, or even years after your loss. Bereavement, or the grief one feels after losing a friend or family member, is a normal reaction to a significant loss. In fact, bereavement is a natural and healthy way to cope with the pain of losing someone that, in time, can renew you and permit you to move on. Here is a closer look at some of the ways bereavement can manifest itself after the death of a loved one:

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    Shock and Disbelief

    It can be hard, if not altogether impossible, to accept what has happened after you find out that a loved one has passed. You may feel numb to the tragedy, or even have trouble believing that the person you love is really gone. You may also sit around waiting for your loved one to walk through the door, even though you know he or she is gone.

    Sadness

    Profound sadness is the symptom of grief that is most universally experienced. It is completely normal to feel sad, especially if the person was close to you or died an untimely death. Emptiness, despair, yearning, and deep loneliness are all common feelings one endures while grieving the passing of a loved one.

    Physical Symptoms

    While most people think of grief as a strictly emotional process, bereavement can also manifest itself physically. Some of these physical symptoms include nausea, fatigue, weight loss or weight gain, aches and pains, and insomnia. If these physical symptoms persist or worsen over time, seek the guidance of a therapist or grief counselor before you put your own life at risk.

    Chapel of the Chimes of Hayward, CA understands the grief you must be feeling, which is why we offer compassionate funeral services and grief support. No matter how you feel at this moment, you have our commitment and promise that you are not alone. Call Chapel of the Chimes at (510) 471-3363 to learn more.

  • Selecting a Gift for a Grieving Friend

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    It can be difficult to watch a close friend deal with the loss of a loved one. It can also be difficult to know what to do for your friend. A gift acknowledges the loss and shows your friend that you care for him or her and that you are there for support. The gift may also help your friend cope with the loss and pull out of the grief that has stricken them.

    Flowers are a traditional gift and help to pay respect for the deceased. You can also create a scrapbook that honors the memories your friend made with his or her loved one. Making a charitable donation in the name of your friend on behalf of the deceased can also show your friend that you truly care and appreciate the gravity of their loss.

    For more gift ideas, contact the grief counselors at Chapel of the Chimes in Hayward, CA. We are fully committed to the families we serve, especially when the going gets tough. To learn more about our funeral services, or for information about helping out a grieving friend, contact Chapel of the Chimes at (510) 471-3363.

  • Exploring the Burial Customs and Funeral Rituals of East Asia

    Minglou (soul tower) in the Changling Tomb, Beijing, China

    There are hundreds of different cultures around the world, but each experiences the pain and sadness of death. You can learn a lot about how to cope with the passing of your loved one by looking at the ways other cultures and societies bury their dead and mourn their death. Whether you are planning a funeral or would simply like more information about how other cultures experience death, here is a brief look at the burial customs and funeral rituals of East Asia:

    China
    The burial of the dead is a very serious matter in Chinese culture. In fact, many believe that improper funeral arrangements can bring ill fortune and disaster on the family of the deceased. The funeral ceremony in China traditionally lasts over 49 days, with prayers being said every seven days if the family can afford it. At the funeral, the eldest son of the deceased will retrieve some earth from the grave and put it into an incense bottle, and the deceased will be worshiped by the family at home.

    Japan
    Most funerals in Japan are held in a Buddhist style . After the body is cremated, the relatives pick the bones out of the ash and pass them from person to person using chopsticks. The urn is kept on an altar at the family’s house for 35 days, after which it is finally buried in a Buddhist cemetery. The Japanese visit their ancestors’ graves on many occasions during the year, not just on the anniversary of their passing.

    Thailand
    In Thailand, crying is discouraged during the funeral so as not to worry the spirit of the deceased. Monks are invited to chant prayers that are intended to provide merit for the deceased and protect the family against the possibility of the relative returning as an evil spirit. During the funeral, a thread may be connected to the corpse or coffin which is held by the chanting monks. This thread is intended to transfer the merit of the monks’ recitation to the deceased.

    No matter what your spiritual or religious beliefs are, Chapel of the Chimes in Hayward, CA offers funeral, memorial, burial, and cremation services that will help you honor the deceased. You can even pre-plan your own funeral to ease the burden on your family. Contact us online or call (510) 471-3363 to speak with a funeral director today.

  • Helping a Friend Through the Grieving Process

    It is not uncommon to struggle with what to say and what to do when a friend loses a relative or loved one. Fortunately, others have gone through this and are willing to share what they learned to help you support your friend through this trying time.

    In this video, you will learn how to comfort and communicate with a friend that is going through the grieving process. First, acknowledge the loss and express your concern and sadness. You should also be real about your own feelings, as disingenuous or dishonest emotions will not help you or your friend. Finally, offer support however you can and make yourself available.

    The grief counselors at Chapel of the Chimes in Hayward, CA are here to help you and your friends get through these though times. Our funeral home offers compassionate funeral services, including burials, cremations, and memorials. We also offer online and in-person grief counseling for individuals in need. Contact us online or call (510) 471-3363 to learn more about our services.