Although burial is the preferred method of saying goodbye for many families, more people are choosing to honor their loved ones with cremation. Cremation is a process of rendering a deceased loved one into his or her most basic elements. When you choose cremation for your loved one, you have many options for permanent memorials with which to honor your cherished memories.
There are many reasons why your family might choose cremation instead of burial. Your loved one might have expressed a preference for this method of internment, and he or she might have requested that you scatter the ashes at a special location. Your family might choose cremation for religious reasons or out of concern for the environment. Many people find that cremation makes coping with grief a little easier.
Your family might prefer to memorialize your loved one with a special indoor niche. A glass front niche offers a climate-controlled environment for your loved one’s remains. Many people place sentimental tokens in the niche, such as photos of a loved one and items that he or she cherished in life. Your family might also consider selecting an outdoor niche to serve as a permanent memorial for the life that was lost.
Erecting Pedestals or Benches
Pedestal memorials are often chosen to immortalize a loved one. Your family can choose a design that best reflects the personality, character, and interests of your loved one. For example, you might choose a pedestal with a butterfly to honor a loved one who enjoyed spending time in his or her garden. Another option is a decorative memorial bench. Benches and pedestal memorials offer a permanent tribute to the memories of your loved one, and provide friends and family with a gathering place for reflection.
In addition to these cremation memorial options, there are many other memorials with which you can honor your loved one. Please contact Chapel of the Chimes—A Lifemark Group Property at (510) 471-3363 to learn about other memorial choices. The professionals at our funeral homes and cemeteries are proud to serve families of Northern California.
Many people choose cremation to honor their deceased loved ones. After your loved one has been cremated and you’ve said your goodbyes, it’s time to decide on a final resting place for your loved one’s memorial urn. One option is to bury the urn in a cemetery and mark the grave with a memorial or headstone. This affords you enough distance to help you cope with your grief, while creating a place where you can visit your loved one and reflect on your cherished memories.
Another option is to place the urn in a memorial niche above the ground. This niche can serve as a tribute to your loved one. Place some of your loved one’s cherished possessions in the niche to honor his or her memory. Another option is to scatter your loved one’s remains in a place that held a strong sentimental value for your loved one, such as in his or her garden.
If you have any questions about honoring your loved one with a memorial, please call Chapel of the Chimes—A Lifemark Group Property at (510) 471-3363. Our funeral homes and cemeteries have been serving California families for more than 140 years.
Few life events are more devastating than losing a loved one. In your grief, you’re likely to experience a range of very strong emotions, from sadness and frustration to anger and fear. Try not to ignore your feelings; instead, acknowledge them and let them run their natural course. Talk to others about how you’re feeling and share your cherished memories of your loved one.
For more advice on coping with your grief, watch this video. You’ll hear a psychologist explain the importance of reaching out for support and the link between caring for your physical health and your emotional wellbeing.
Learn about grief support services available at Chapel of the Chimes by visiting our website. You can reach our funeral home and cemetery by calling (510) 471-3363.
When coping with grief, you may feel lost and unsure of what you’re supposed to be doing or feeling. It’s important to remember that everyone grieves differently; there is no “right” way to grieve. You may find some solace at your loved one’s funeral or cremation ceremony. Visiting your loved one at the funeral home and saying your final goodbyes can also offer a measure of closure.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
You may feel as if you have to stay strong for other family members and friends during difficult times. However, trying to ignore your emotions will only cause harm, as it does not allow you to face your loss. Acknowledge how you feel, either privately or with a close family member or friend. It may also help to start a journal; describe how you feel and remind yourself of all the things you cherished about your loved one.
Reach Out for Help
Try not to isolate yourself after the funeral, as this will likely make it more difficult to cope with your loss. When you’re ready to talk about it, seek support from your family members and friends. Many people find that getting out of the house to see a movie or engage in some other activity with a friend is a welcome distraction in difficult times. You might also consider joining a support group for people coping with loss.
Talk to a Counselor
If you find it difficult to speak with friends and family members, consider talking to a grief counselor . As strange as it sounds, it’s sometimes easier to discuss emotions with a stranger. Grief counselors are specially trained to help you deal with your feelings.
At Chapel of the Chimes—A Lifemark Group Property , we understand how difficult it is to cope with the loss of a loved one. One of our funeral home services is grief counseling, which is available online 24/7. Learn more about our funeral homes and cemeteries in Northern California by calling us at (510) 471-3363, or visit our website to view cremation memorial options.