• Dealing With Grief After the Death of a Loved One

    There is no way to guess at the amount of grief you will feel after a loved one’s death. Whether the death comes suddenly and unexpectedly or at the end of a long illness, it is important to remember that feeling grief is entirely natural.

    As this video explains, it is important that you take the time to grieve at the time of your loss. You may feel a mixture of feelings, from sadness to anger to relief. There will come a time when you are able to live with your loss, but all of these emotions must first be felt in order for that day to come.

    At Hayward’s Chapel Of The Chimes , we can provide a number of services to help you and your family during this difficult time, including funeral services , funeral pre-planning, and cremation. If you have any questions, contact us today at (510) 471-3363.

  • A Look at Your Cremation Memorialization Options

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    If a loved one chooses cremation services instead of burial for his or her final wishes, memorialization may be a concern for you. At Chapel of the Chimes, we offer several options that will allow you to visit a place, leave mementos, and create a lasting legacy to the deceased. Some of your cremation memorialization options include:

    • A Bench Estate
      A beautifully carved granite bench offers a wonderful way to memorialize a loved one. You can sit on the bench and reflect on the memories that you had with that person. Benches can be simple and elegant, ornate and detailed, or fun and interesting. Purchasing a memorial bench is a beautiful tribute to the life of someone you cared about.
       
    • A Pedestal
      Another monument choice for cremation memorialization is a pedestal. You can incorporate water elements, planters for your loved one’s favorite flowers, or a special resting place for the ashes of the deceased. A pedestal offers a place to come and remember your loved one while adding stately beauty to the memorial garden you choose.
       
    • A Niche
      Indoor and outdoor niches are available and they offer a safe, secure place to leave your loved one’s ashes. A niche provides a place to visit and reflect. An indoor niche will allow you to leave pictures and other items to memorialize your loved one. There are many different styles of niches, and you can choose the one that will best honor the deceased.
       
    • A Tree
      If you’d like a more natural memorialization option, consider planting a tree and spreading your loved one’s ashes among the roots. As the tree grows, you’ll have a visual reminder of the love and the life the deceased had, and part of him or her will live on in the tree. You’ll also be reminded that there is a season for every part of life as you watch the tree bud and bloom, lose its leaves, and start the cycle over again.

    The caring funeral planners at Chapel of the Chimes can help you select the right cremation memorialization option for your loved one. To learn more about the tributes and memorials we offer, call (510) 471-3363.

  • Three Benefits of Funeral Service Pre-Planning

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    Thinking about your own funeral arrangements can feel strange, especially if you are healthy and young. However, funeral service pre-planning can offer a number of benefits to both you and your family. Continue reading to learn about the benefits that come with taking the time to plan ahead for your funeral.

    You’ll know that your funeral service will be exactly as you want. When you pre-arrange your funeral, you have the opportunity to make all of the decisions about your service. These decisions can include what you’ll wear, the music that will be played, the type of casket or urn that is chosen, and even the flowers you want for your service. You can also make note of anything that you don’t want at your funeral.

    The stress will be removed from your family. Many families struggle to plan a funeral service that is a fitting tribute to their loved one. They may find it difficult to determine what the deceased would have preferred. When you pre-plan your funeral service, these decisions will have already been taken care of. Your family members can rest assured that when they follow your instructions, they are giving you the exact service you desire. This will allow them to be there for one another and work through their grief without any added tasks to perform.

    You can take the financial burden off of your family. Pre-planning your services allows you to pay for your funeral ahead of time. When you pay for your funeral in advance, there is no question of who is responsible for the expenses.

    At Hayward’s Chapel of the Chimes , we offer pre-planning of funeral services to help you and your family prepare for the time when your final wishes are to be honored. We can help you make the tough decisions about your funeral during a time that is not stressful. Our help now will take the burden and stress off of your loved ones during their time of grief. To learn more about how our pre-planning services can help you and your family, contact us at (510) 471-3363.

  • Tips for Preparing and Giving a Eulogy

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    Delivering a speech can be a daunting and difficult task, especially if it is during a time of emotional stress. Writing and giving a eulogy at a memorial or funeral service can be an overwhelming job, but it is also an honor to be asked to deliver such a speech. Here is some advice on how to prepare an appropriate and memorable eulogy.

    Give yourself time: The days following the death of a loved one are a difficult time, and can be made more stressful with last minute funeral preparations. Do not wait until the day before the service to prepare the eulogy. Allow yourself time to reflect on the person’s life, your relationship with the deceased, and what mattered to him or her in life.

    Talk with other people: You may have an idea of what you want to say about what the deceased meant to you, but it is also important to get feedback from others who knew him or her. Take time to sit down with your loved one’s friends, family, and colleagues to find out what they remember. They will often have memories that make valuable contributions to the eulogy.

    Be positive: Remember that the funeral service is a celebration of the deceased’s life and highlight his or her positive attributes during the eulogy. Discuss passions and hobbies, and insert humor if and when it is appropriate. The funeral is a time for grieving, but also a time of joyful remembrance.

    Keep it brief: A typical eulogy lasts anywhere from three to ten minutes. It’s a good idea to confirm the expectations of the eulogy’s length with the funeral director ahead of time.

    Be prepared: Before you arrive at the funeral, be sure to practice giving the eulogy . Bring a copy of your speech with you in case you forget what you were going to say or in case someone needs to take over the speech for you.

    Don’t be afraid to ask for help when preparing to give a eulogy. Take comfort in your family and friends, and trust the caring funeral professionals at Hayward’s Chapel of the Chimes to assist you during this difficult time. Call us at (510) 471-3363 for more information.