• Funeral Home & Memorial Resources from Chapel of the Chimes Hayward

    In Loving Memory

    Have you found our recent blog posts to be helpful? If you are looking to learn more about the complex and personal process of grieving, or you would like to find out more about the different types of in-ground burial options, then browse through the following resources. Cemetary

    • Read more about the patterns and stages of grieving that many people experience following the death of a loved one in this Psychology Today article.

    For more information, or for assistance in planning the funeral or memorial service of a loved one, call Chapel of the Chimes Hayward at (510) 471-3363.

  • How to Dress For a Funeral

    Many people agonize over what to wear to a funeral—not out of vanity, but out of concern of the grieving processes of those around them. To find out what type of funeral attire is considered safe and conservative, watch this brief informational video.

    This video provides tips on dressing appropriately for both men and women. In addition to offering specific examples for tops and bottoms, this video touches on shoes, jewelry, neckties, and other accessories so that you can feel comfortable about your entire outfit when you show up to your loved one’s funeral.

    It is worth noting that not all funeral dress codes adhere to the norm. If a cultural or religious tradition means that the funeral you are planning has a non-conventional dress code, be sure to let visitors know in advance. For start-to-finish assistance in planning a funeral in the East Bay area, call Chapel of the Chimes Hayward at (510) 471-3363.

  • What is the Difference Between a Traditional Burial and a Lawn Crypt?

    Rose on the tombstone

    More and more frequently, people are choosing to lay their loved ones to rest in ways that differ from the traditional burial. This is no indication that the traditional burial method is inferior to alternative burial options—rather, it is a reflection of expanding consumer choices designed to more precisely meet the needs and wants of those who are planning funerals for their loved ones. To find more about the difference between a traditional burial and the alternative lawn crypt burial , continue reading this article.

    Traditional Burial Overview

    A traditional burial, the type that is commonly associated with funerals of public figures and that which is typically featured in Hollywood films, has been a popular option in the United States for several generations. Most funeral homes provide a traditional burial option that consists of embalming, a casket, a funeral service, and a burial. Highly reputable funeral homes include an outer container as part of the traditional burial option, which preserves the integrity of the casket; provides an extra layer of protection for the body; and helps keep the ground from sinking. To mark the grave site, a family member can choose any marker that is approved by the funeral home. The two most popular options are an upright headstone and a flat-lying flush marker.

    Lawn Crypt Introduction

    A lawn crypt burial option also typically includes embalming, a casket, a funeral service, and a burial. The primary difference is that, instead of being stored in an individual outer container, the casket is interred in a pre-installed vault designed to hold several individuals. This allows for spouses and family members to be entombed together. Flat-lying flush markers are the standard type of grave marker for this economical burial option that offers advantages of both in-ground burial and mausoleum interment.

    Would you like to find out more about either of these two burial options? If so, contact a funeral director at Chapel of the Chimes Hayward . Call (510) 471-3363 to learn more about our full range of services, to pre-arrange your funeral, or for assistance in planning the funeral of a loved who has recently passed.

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    Chinese New Year 2012

    Happy Chinese New Year from all of us at Chapel of the Chimes!

  • Understanding the Psychology of Grief


    Many of us are familiar with the five-stage grief cycle that was popularized by Swiss American psychologist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. For some of us, it is an accurate description of the grief process we experience after the loss of a loved one . For others, it couldn’t be more inaccurate. Grief is a highly personal experience that manifests itself in different forms for different people. Here is a brief look at the psychology of grief:

    Kübler-Ross Model

    Based on hundreds of interviews with dying patients, Kübler-Ross deduced that there is a set of five stages people tend to experience in the face of tragedy. These stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

    Her empirical research lent great credence to the five stages of grief that she outlined in her signature work, On Death and Dying . Since the book was published, her model has been widely circulated throughout academia and the public. For some, the Kübler-Ross Model accurately depicts the grieving process, and knowing that acceptance is on the horizon can help them cope with their grief .

    Why the Kübler-Ross Model is Not Universal

    Even Elisabeth Kübler-Ross wrote that not everyone experiences the five stages of grief when coping with a life-threatening illness or the loss of a loved one. This is because grief is a natural process; and, by nature, humans are different. Cultural norms and expectations, as well as experiential differences, can further explain the varying ways in which people grieve.

    Grief Support Effectiveness

    With funeral arrangements to make and legal matters to attend to following the loss of a loved one, the natural grief process can be further interrupted. Full-service funeral homes offer grief support that has proven very effective at helping individuals cope with loss. One-on-one grief counseling and group-style grief support can continue to help people cope long after they have planned a funeral service and memorial.

    Are you looking for an experienced and compassionate funeral home director in the East Bay area to help you make funeral arrangements for your loved one? If so, Chapel of the Chimes Hayward can help. Call (510) 471-3363 or visit our website to learn more about our full range of professional funeral-related services, which include grief support recommendations.