• Meaningful Rituals for Paying Tribute to Your Loved Ones


    When a loved one passes away, you want to honor their memory. In addition to religious traditions, the ritual observation of death is a powerful part of the healing process. Cultures around the world observe death and mourning in different ways.

    • Ching Ming
      The Ching Ming Festival is a Chinese tradition, observed in early April. Families visit the graves of their ancestors to celebrate and honor their passed lives. Graves are swept and food, tea, and other offerings are made.
    • Día de los Muertos
      Día de los Muertos (or the Day of the Dead), is a Mexican holiday on the first and second day of November. Sugar skulls and marigolds are used to honor the dead and offerings are made at gravesites.
    • Jewish Traditions
      Following a death, someone in mourning goes through a process known as “sitting shivah.” This is a period of mourning and quiet contemplation. Each year, a memorial custom called Yahrzeit is observed on the day of the death, according to the Hebrew calendar.

    If your loved one has passed away, then you may wish to honor their life with a ritual tribute. A memorial service is one way to honor your loved one. Planning a memorial service involves a few key considerations.

    • Obituaries
      An obituary is not simply a notification of death, but is a way for people to reflect and celebrate their loved one’s life. Writing an obituary can be a challenging task, but also an opportunity to reflect on the life of a loved one.
    • Music, Readings, and Reception
      The content of a memorial service provides an opportunity for those who knew the deceased to remember them through their favorite music, poetry, or religious beliefs. Care should be taken not only to select items the deceased enjoyed, but also consider how friends and family will respond.
    • After the Service
      Special care must be taken before the deceased is cremated. There are specific laws in California that govern where ashes can and cannot be scattered. Regardless of location, you must receive a permit from the local California Department of Health. The only people who may scatter ashes are family members or licensed representatives of a funeral home or crematorium.

    Hayward’s Chapel of the Chimes can help you plan your memorial or funeral service. Contact us online or call (510) 471-3363 to learn more about the services we offer, including estate planning and cemetery lot purchases.

  • Men and Grief

    While all people cope with grief, men face specific challenges when dealing with the loss of a loved one. Men and Grief by Carol Staudacher brings to light the hurdles of mourning which hinder the healing process for many men.

    Grief expert Carol Staudacher says men have five coping styles:

    1. Silence
    2. Secret or solitary grief
    3. Taking action, such as physical and legal repercussions
    4. Immersion into another activity, such as work
    5. Falling into addictive behavior

    Find out more about men, grieving, and sorrow .

    Reflection - Men and Grief

    At Chapel of the Chimes, we understand how difficult the loss of a loved one can be. Distinguished by its Circle of Peace Mausoleum and bay views, our Hayward location offers in-ground and above-ground burial, cremation, and funeral and memorial services.

    Contact us to tour our site in person, and discuss how we can be of help.