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    How to Prepare Yourself Emotionally for the Loss of a Loved One

    Last updated 1 month ago

    The emotional impact of losing a loved one is far-reaching. If you need grief support or would like to make funeral arrangements, Chapel of the Chimes is here for you. Read on to learn more about how you can prepare for the loss of a loved one.                                                                             

    Turn to Your Support Network

    Dealing with loss requires strength and support, which is something that your support network can give you. Family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, and support group peers can give support. Let your support network know what you are going through, and let them know that you may need more support or more time to be alone.

    Remember To Take Care of Yourself

    When you are under stress and dealing with difficult emotions, it’s important to take care of yourself physically and mentally. Eat well, get plenty of sleep, and don’t try to do too much. Speak to your employer about taking some time off of work if you need to. You may also want to research some of the financial and legal issues that may come up as a result of bereavement to help deal with some of the stresses in advance.

    Recognize the Stages of Grief

    The first stage is usually denial and shock, where it’s very difficult to believe that the death will occur. Anger and guilt comprise another stage, where it’s normal to get upset with yourself, others, and even the person who you lost. Bargaining is the stage of grief where you believe that you might be able to change the death of the loved one. Profound sadness is an inevitable stage of grief, and tends to be the longest lasting stage. The final stage of grief is usually acceptance.

    If you have recently lost a loved one, contact Chapel of the Chimes, a funeral home in San Jose. We are here for you as you grieve, offering grief counseling and even online support. Call us at (866) 475-9407 for more information, and visit our website to learn more about our funeral services.

    Tips for Writing a Thoughtful Eulogy

    Last updated 1 month ago

    A thoughtful eulogy can have a deep impact on the friends and family of the loved one who passed away. But writing a eulogy can be challenging, especially if this is the first time you have ever delivered a eulogy at a funeral home. Use the following tips to guide you along the process of drafting an impactful eulogy.

    Brainstorm First

    Before you sit down to write a eulogy, you’ll need some inspiration. Begin by listing some of the qualities of the person, their achievements, and what makes them outstanding. Reaching out to others is an important part of the brainstorming process. If you were the only family member who was asked to offer a eulogy, we recommend reaching out to other relatives for their input, suggestions, and stories.

    Include Anecdotes

    Some people fall into the trap of offering a eulogy that’s a bit too bland. If you want your eulogy to stand out, include lively anecdotes. Don’t just say that the person was kind—give the listeners an example of his or her kindness.

    Practice Delivery

    It’s important to revise and practice your eulogy so that you can deliver it seamlessly. Shorter eulogies tend to be more effective, so strive to keep the eulogy at about five to eight minutes in length.

    Avoid Common Eulogy Mistakes

    Don’t be afraid to share something humorous, because the resulting laughter is usually healthy and restorative. Additionally, try not to focus too much on yourself; reading the eulogy to a trustworthy friend will help you determine if you need to revise it. We recommend taking a break from writing the eulogy, because when you come back to it you will have a fresh perspective.

    At Chapel of the Chimes we want to be here for you as you prepare to give a eulogy. Visit our website for a funeral pre-planning guide, and call us at (866) 475-9407 for more information. Our funeral home in San Jose offers a 61-acre cemetery as well as a number of memorial, burial, and cremation services.

    A Visit to the Brookside Cremation Garden

    Last updated 1 month ago

    Cremation is becoming an increasingly popular option for people planning their final wishes, which is why Chapel of the Chimes has created the Brookside Creation Garden. This beautifully landscaped environment provides a myriad of choices for loved ones who wish to be inurned at our Hayward location.

    Our cremation and burial options allow for complete personalization. Prior to moving forward with the process, our friendly and knowledgeable associates discuss at length with loved ones to determine the best way in which to honor the deceased. In many cases, family members may want to designate a site with a special plaque or post that highlights a favorite activity or interest. We also provide a backdrop that can serve as a calming and comforting presence for loved ones each time they come to visit our memorial garden.

    Would you like to learn more about Brookside Cremation Garden? Then call Chapel of the Chimes in Hayward at (866) 475-9407. We can help you make the most suitable decision regarding the final wishes of your loved one.

    What Are Your Responsibilities as a Pallbearer?

    Last updated 2 months ago

    Being a pallbearer is an honor that both men and women may receive upon the passing of a loved one. In this video, you can learn more about what might be expected of you during the funeral service.

    Early arrival to the funeral home is a common request made of pallbearers. Upon entering the funeral home, you can find out where you may need to later go once the procession moves outside. You can also meet with your fellow pallbearers. Once the funeral home services are complete, you and the other pallbearers will take hold of the casket handles and use them to carry the casket to the waiting car.

    Let Chapel of the Chimes help you plan your funeral services. Call our Hayward office at (866) 475-9407 for more information about our final resting place options.  

    Exploring Catholic Funeral Traditions

    Last updated 2 months ago

    Many religious groups have specific rituals that they perform for major life events, including birth, marriage, and death. Those belonging to the Catholic faith are no exception. The following information highlights some of the more common aspects of Catholic funeral services.


    Individuals who plan Catholic funeral services should keep in mind that eulogies are not common practices during them. A eulogy, wherein a friend or family member makes a speech highlighting the life of the deceased, can be given during other observatory gatherings. In general, the focus of a Catholic funeral centers on the religious aspects of the deceased’s life and ways in which he or she followed in the footsteps of Jesus.

    Cremation Options

    Burial preferences have changed with time. A casket burial was once the only option for many people, but with the surging interest in cremation, the Catholic Church has deemed it an acceptable alternate for a traditional burial. Those who observe the Catholic faith should keep in mind a few considerations should they decide to do cremation. While a vacation spot or park may hold a special place in someone’s life, the Catholic Church does not deem acceptable the spreading of ashes in such locales. Should a person choose cremation, he or she must select inurnment in a cemetery as well.

    Cemetery Customs

    Catholic funeral services do not end at the funeral home. Rather, the Catholic Church normally advises that loved ones be in attendance as the casket is lowered for burial. This part of the funeral services can provide friends and family members with the opportunity to say goodbye to the deceased at his or her final resting place.

    Chapel of the Chimes can help you observe the traditional rites of your faith or religion. Our compassionate staff is here to assist you as you plan your funeral service and to answer any questions you may have about proper customs. To find out more about our cemetery sales, call our Hayward office at (866) 475-9407. 

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