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    After Your Loved One's Funeral: What Are Your Responsibilities?

    Last updated 2 months ago

    If you recently said goodbye to a loved one following services at a funeral home, there are a few things still left to do. For example, if your loved one was cremated, there are a number of things you can do to honor his or her remains. Even if you have requested donations to a cause in lieu of flowers, you may still receive some memorial arrangements. Here are some tips that will help you manage the responsibilities following your loved one’s funeral.


    You can keep your loved one’s ashes in an urn, which can be placed somewhere special inside your home. You may want to purchase more than one urn if you have other family members who want to keep your loved one’s ashes. Another option is to take the ashes to a cemetery, where they can be buried and then honored with a cremation memorial such as a bench or pedestal. Many people like to scatter ashes somewhere in nature. But because not all areas allow the scattering of human remains, it’s important to check the law before you begin scattering ashes.


    You can leave floral arrangements at home, take them to the funeral home, give them to family members, leave them at the gravesite, or give them to a hospital or retirement home as long as the arrangement is not obviously funeral-related. Take the cards that come with the arrangements so you can thank the givers.


    Many people purchase a marker or monument to place on the gravesite. You can find monuments in the form of a bench, pedestal memorials, mausoleums, and more. Personalized memorials usually contain the name, date of birth, and date of death.

    To learn more about your responsibilities following the funeral services, visit Chapel of the Chimes of Hayward, CA online. Our website has a list of resources for funeral planning, grief and healing, and funeral etiquette. Call us at (866) 475-9407 or visit our website for more information.

    What Does It Mean to Sit Shiva?

    Last updated 2 months ago

    Following a burial in Jewish tradition, there is a seven-day period of mourning for the dead. This is also known as sitting shiva. It begins after the burial, when the family and everyone at the cemetery must symbolically wash their hands. If possible, it is best to sit shiva in the home where the loved one who passed away lived, because in Jewish tradition this is where the soul hovers during this period of mourning. Watch the video clip to learn more about what it means to sit shiva.

    Chapel of the Chimes is a funeral home in Hayward with a deep respect for the diversity of the many ways to mourn the death of a loved one. Visit our website to see all of the ways that we can honor the life of your loved one who passed away. For more information, call us at (866) 475-9407.

    Find Inspired Ways to Memorialize Your Loved One with Our Signature Services

    Last updated 2 months ago

    At Chapel of the Chimes, a highly respected funeral home in San Jose, we offer a range of signature services that serve as marvelous way to honor your loved one. One of our most popular services is the ceremonial dove release. We can release up to a dozen doves next to the site of your loved one’s crypt or grave. If you want something more unique, we also offer a ceremonial butterfly release, where we can release 60 butterflies in personalized envelopes or an elegant box. Chapel of the Chimes can also make memorial wristbands or framed memory portraits to commemorate your loved one. In the past we have made precious memories such as a birthstone attached to a sterling silver thumbprint charm. If you want something simple like a themed register book and a package of acknowledgement cards, we can make those for you as well.

    To learn about the many other tributes and signature services we offer at Chapel of the Chimes, visit our funeral home online. If you have any questions, give us a call at (866) 475-9407.

    How to Prepare Yourself Emotionally for the Loss of a Loved One

    Last updated 2 months ago

    The emotional impact of losing a loved one is far-reaching. If you need grief support or would like to make funeral arrangements, Chapel of the Chimes is here for you. Read on to learn more about how you can prepare for the loss of a loved one.                                                                             

    Turn to Your Support Network

    Dealing with loss requires strength and support, which is something that your support network can give you. Family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, and support group peers can give support. Let your support network know what you are going through, and let them know that you may need more support or more time to be alone.

    Remember To Take Care of Yourself

    When you are under stress and dealing with difficult emotions, it’s important to take care of yourself physically and mentally. Eat well, get plenty of sleep, and don’t try to do too much. Speak to your employer about taking some time off of work if you need to. You may also want to research some of the financial and legal issues that may come up as a result of bereavement to help deal with some of the stresses in advance.

    Recognize the Stages of Grief

    The first stage is usually denial and shock, where it’s very difficult to believe that the death will occur. Anger and guilt comprise another stage, where it’s normal to get upset with yourself, others, and even the person who you lost. Bargaining is the stage of grief where you believe that you might be able to change the death of the loved one. Profound sadness is an inevitable stage of grief, and tends to be the longest lasting stage. The final stage of grief is usually acceptance.

    If you have recently lost a loved one, contact Chapel of the Chimes, a funeral home in San Jose. We are here for you as you grieve, offering grief counseling and even online support. Call us at (866) 475-9407 for more information, and visit our website to learn more about our funeral services.

    Tips for Writing a Thoughtful Eulogy

    Last updated 3 months ago

    A thoughtful eulogy can have a deep impact on the friends and family of the loved one who passed away. But writing a eulogy can be challenging, especially if this is the first time you have ever delivered a eulogy at a funeral home. Use the following tips to guide you along the process of drafting an impactful eulogy.

    Brainstorm First

    Before you sit down to write a eulogy, you’ll need some inspiration. Begin by listing some of the qualities of the person, their achievements, and what makes them outstanding. Reaching out to others is an important part of the brainstorming process. If you were the only family member who was asked to offer a eulogy, we recommend reaching out to other relatives for their input, suggestions, and stories.

    Include Anecdotes

    Some people fall into the trap of offering a eulogy that’s a bit too bland. If you want your eulogy to stand out, include lively anecdotes. Don’t just say that the person was kind—give the listeners an example of his or her kindness.

    Practice Delivery

    It’s important to revise and practice your eulogy so that you can deliver it seamlessly. Shorter eulogies tend to be more effective, so strive to keep the eulogy at about five to eight minutes in length.

    Avoid Common Eulogy Mistakes

    Don’t be afraid to share something humorous, because the resulting laughter is usually healthy and restorative. Additionally, try not to focus too much on yourself; reading the eulogy to a trustworthy friend will help you determine if you need to revise it. We recommend taking a break from writing the eulogy, because when you come back to it you will have a fresh perspective.

    At Chapel of the Chimes we want to be here for you as you prepare to give a eulogy. Visit our website for a funeral pre-planning guide, and call us at (866) 475-9407 for more information. Our funeral home in San Jose offers a 61-acre cemetery as well as a number of memorial, burial, and cremation services.

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