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    A Guide to Jewish Funeral Customs

    Last updated 2 months ago

    Each culture and religion has their own way to deal with death and grief. In the Jewish religion, there are specific customs that help mourners deal with the loss of a friend or loved one. Keep reading to learn more about these funeral customs.

    Quick Burials to Honor the Dead

    Jews are buried as quickly as possible after their deaths as a way to honor them, which is a process known as k’vod hamet. The funeral services are only delayed if close family members cannot arrange travel plans soon enough to attend the funeral or if the burial would fall on the Sabbath or a holiday. Waiting too long to bury a Jewish person is considered disrespectful and humiliating.

    Torn Clothing to Show Grief

    The immediate family members in orthodox and conservative Jewish families tear their clothing before the funeral to symbolize their grief. Sometimes the rabbi who will conduct the funeral also tears his or her clothing while saying a blessing for the deceased. Reform Jews do not usually tear their clothes, but they do wear black ribbons on their clothing as a sign of loss.

    Shiva to Mourn

    After the funeral is over, Jews sit Shiva to mourn. Traditionally, Shiva lasts for seven days, but many reform Jews have shortened the mourning period to three days. During this time, all mirrors in the home are covered and family and friends come over to pay their respects to the deceased and the surviving family members.

    Chapel of the Chimes can provide some relief during your periods of grief. Our 61-acre cemetery is dedicated to offering funeral, memorial, burial, and cremation services to the diverse population of Hayward. For more than 140 years, we have done what we can to ease the pain associated with the end of a life. To learn more about our services, visit us at our website or call (866) 475-9407. 

    Understanding the Proper Etiquette at a Funeral

    Last updated 2 months ago

    Funerals give survivors a way to pay their respects to the deceased while celebrating their lives. Use the following tips to ensure that you follow the proper etiquette the next time you attend a funeral.

    Wear Appropriate Clothing

    Mourners are not required to wear black to a funeral, but they should wear clothing that is both conservative and respectful. Dark colors, suits, dresses, and muted patterns are usually the best options to wear to a funeral. You should avoid wearing any clothing that is too revealing and try to keep shoulders covered if you are attending a funeral in a church or another religious building.

    Wait Until the Right Moment to Leave

    Mourners are usually invited to arrive at the funeral home at least 10 minutes before the service starts. Although funerals are typically short ceremonies, there are some that run longer. Do not exit the graveside until the service is complete. Once the ceremony is over and the mourners leave, the casket is lowered into the ground so the deceased can rest in peace.

    Express Your Condolences

    Flowers, cards, and even food for the family of the deceased are considered appropriate gifts to express your condolences before or after a funeral. You can also e-mail or call the family members to check on them in the days leading up to and following the memorial service. If you do call, however, try to make the conversation as short as possible to give the family the space they need to mourn in piece.

    Chapel of the Chimes offers burial and cremation services to give your loved ones a proper goodbye. We can cater to a wide variety of religions and cultures to ensure that your loved ones get a service that celebrates their lives and gives mourners a chance to pay their respects. To learn more about our end-of-life services, call (866) 475-9407. 

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    Deciding Who Should Deliver the Eulogy

    Last updated 3 months ago

    A eulogy is a beautiful way to honor a life at a funeral that gives everyone a way to remember the best parts of someone’s story. If one of your loved ones has recently passed away, use the following tips to decide who should deliver this important speech.

    Whoever you choose to give the eulogy must feel comfortable speaking in front of a group of people. It is usually preferred that this person had a close relationship with the deceased so that he or she can deliver a personalized eulogy. They should also be willing to accept suggestions from family members and other loved ones of the deceased.

    For more than 140 years, Chapel of the Chimes has provided a beautiful place to say goodbye to loved ones in Hayward. Our end-of-life services give survivors a way to honor those who have passed away. To learn more about our services, visit us on the Web or call (866) 475-9407. 

    The 5 Stages of Grief

    Last updated 3 months ago

    Although everyone deals with grief on a personal level, there are five stages that seem to be pretty universal throughout the process. After the death of a loved one, you will most likely experience the following emotions, as explained in this video. 

    Denial is a refusal to accept certain information or facts about the situation. Anger usually follows denial and can manifest itself in a number of different ways. Many people start to bargain with their spiritual beliefs during a period of grieving. As people start to accept the death, they might struggle with depression. The final stage of grief is usually acceptance.

    Chapel of the Chimes wants to help you through your difficult time. We give you the opportunity to honor the life of a lost loved one with a beautiful funeral or memorial service. To learn more about our services, call (866) 475-9407. 

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