Planning a memorial or funeral service for the passing of a loved one can be challenging. After the obituary is written, you should start by notifying family and friends who are out of town to give them enough time to plan for attending the service.
When planning the service, you first need to choose a location. If you’re planning a funeral service, then the location is usually determined by the religious affiliation of the deceased. Funerals are often held at the place of worship they frequented during their life. It’s important to be sure about the relationship between the deceased their religious community. Choosing the wrong congregation could be uncomfortable for friends and family.
If you are planning a memorial service, then think of a place that reflects something about your loved one. It could be a particular location they loved, like a pond or lake where they used to swim or go fishing, for example. Or the memorial could be more loosely associated; consider holding the service in a park or garden for someone who was a nature lover.
Loved ones often choose a particular theme for the service. This could be music, nature, charity, and so on, depending on the passion of the person’s life. Deciding on a subject is best done in consultation with friends and family so the theme resonates with everyone on the same level.
Leading the service
Select a leader who will conduct the service. This will typically be a clergyperson or religious representative, family member, or a friend. In addition to the leader, arrange who will speak at the service—someone close to the deceased who can offer highlights or memories of their life.
When planning a reception after the service, consult with family and close friends about what they would prefer. While some families enjoy the social warmth of a large reception, many prefer a quiet and more intimate reception, limited to family and very close friends only.
For more information and guidance on planning funeral and memorial services, contact Chapel of the Chimes of Hayward, CA. Contact us online or give us a call at (510) 471-3363.