Going to a funeral can be intimidating for many people. In addition to
the grief associated with the occasion, some people are concerned about
making etiquette mistakes and offending the family of the deceased unintentionally.
If you are attending a funeral and have questions about what to expect, the
funeral home is always willing to answer your questions. Here are some common mistakes
to avoid at a funeral.
Leaving on Your Cell Phone
Cell phones and funerals are a bad mix. If possible, consider leaving
your phone outside of the funeral home completely. If you need to bring
your phone with you, make sure it is placed on silent. During the actual
service and internment, consider turning your phone off, as even phones
that are silenced make an audible vibrating noise that could be distracting.
You should never check your phone, play games, text, or surf the next
at any part of a funeral service. If you must look at your phone, excuse
yourself to the bathroom or other private area.
Sitting in the Front Row
During a funeral ceremony, the front rows are usually reserved for close
family members. If you are attending as a friend or colleague of the deceased,
sit a few rows back so that the family has ample space. If you are unsure
where to sit, ask someone working in the funeral home so they can direct
you to the right area.
Not Offering Your Condolences
It’s naturally to feel anxious about approaching grieving family
members who you may not know well, if at all, to express your condolences.
However, not doing so is missing an important opportunity. When you tell
the family about your relationship with their loved one and tell them
how sorry you are for their loss, you give them comfort when they most need it.
Chapel of the Chimes Haywood will be glad to answer your questions about
being a guest at one of the services held in our funeral home or on the
grounds of our
cemetery in San Mateo. To reach us, call (510) 398-6922.