Losing a child or spouse is one of the most shocking and emotionally upsetting experiences anyone could imagine having to face. Adding to the emotional stress of this circumstance is the responsibility a parent has to help his or her surviving children cope with the death. If your children have recently lost a parent or sibling, you may be wondering how you can support them while they are grieving. As you plan your loved one’s funeral, consider these tips for helping your children cope.
Be Honest Informing your children that their brother, sister, or parent has died may be earth-shattering for them and heartbreaking for all of you. While the specific information that you provide is up to you, it is important not to try to shield your children from the truth. Eventually, you will need to discuss the loved one’s death. As painful as it may be to do so now, it is better than holding off until later.
Be Supportive As your children process the death of your family member, they are likely to exhibit a wide array of emotions. Do your best to be understanding of how your children grieve, and ensure that they know that you are available to talk and listen anytime. Do your best to remain calm in front of your children and assure them that it is okay to feel sad, frustrated, or confused.
Take Care of Yourself In order to help your children cope with the loss, you need to make an effort to take care of yourself. Ensure that you eat well, get the rest you need, and seek any support you need so that you can better support your children.
As you seek to balance your needs, the needs of your children, and the demands of planning a funeral following the death of a loved one, you may feel overwhelmed. Contacting an experienced and dedicated funeral service provider will help you manage. Offering a full range of services for all backgrounds, Hayward’s Chapel of the Chimes can help. To speak with a member of our compassionate and dedicated staff, call (866) 475-9407.