Delivering a speech can be a daunting and difficult task, especially if it is during a time of emotional stress. Writing and giving a eulogy at a memorial or funeral service can be an overwhelming job, but it is also an honor to be asked to deliver such a speech. Here is some advice on how to prepare an appropriate and memorable eulogy.
Give yourself time: The days following the death of a loved one are a difficult time, and can be made more stressful with last minute funeral preparations. Do not wait until the day before the service to prepare the eulogy. Allow yourself time to reflect on the person’s life, your relationship with the deceased, and what mattered to him or her in life.
Talk with other people: You may have an idea of what you want to say about what the deceased meant to you, but it is also important to get feedback from others who knew him or her. Take time to sit down with your loved one’s friends, family, and colleagues to find out what they remember. They will often have memories that make valuable contributions to the eulogy.
Be positive: Remember that the funeral service is a celebration of the deceased’s life and highlight his or her positive attributes during the eulogy. Discuss passions and hobbies, and insert humor if and when it is appropriate. The funeral is a time for grieving, but also a time of joyful remembrance.
Keep it brief: A typical eulogy lasts anywhere from three to ten minutes. It’s a good idea to confirm the expectations of the eulogy’s length with the funeral director ahead of time.
Be prepared: Before you arrive at the funeral, be sure to practice giving the eulogy. Bring a copy of your speech with you in case you forget what you were going to say or in case someone needs to take over the speech for you.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when preparing to give a eulogy. Take comfort in your family and friends, and trust the caring funeral professionals at Hayward’s Chapel of the Chimes to assist you during this difficult time. Call us at (866) 475-9407 for more information.